This summer is already proving to be a scorcher for just about everyone.

Though it varies for everyone, the consensus over here at GETSOME is that when it’s too hot to step outside without looking like you jumped in a swimming pool, your desire to be touched by someone else goes down… significantly. But the hotter weather doesn’t have to put the kibosh on your sex life until fall.

In fact, summer sex can be extra steamy… and not just because you’re trying to save some money on your electric bill. Here are a few tips for keeping your sex life hot, falling in love with your summer body, and having your best summer sex ever (even when it’s too hot to be touched).

Fall in Love With Your Summer Body

The summertime weather necessitates showing more skin than you might be used to or comfortable with. If you love the fall and winter because you can cover yourself up in your favorite oversized sweater, this time of year might bring up some unwanted body image issues that have the potential to lower your self-esteem and throw the towel on your summer sex life. 

The sad but “good” news is that the vast majority of people have reported experiencing body image issues. So, if you’re feeling self-conscious in your skin, you are absolutely not alone. These feelings are normal, though that doesn’t make them any less detrimental to your self-confidence and mental health.

We take the firm stance that every body is a “swimsuit body,” that we love seeing people wear their sexiest, skimpiest summertime outfits, and that as long as you love you, it doesn’t matter how society perceives your body. Self love trumps everything else as far as we’re concerned. But it takes some practice to get to the point where you can feel the same way about yourself as you might feel about your best friend or a random person you’re passing on the street. We are our own worst enemies, after all.

If you’re struggling with body image issues as summer is heating up, we always recommend talking with a licensed professional to help you through any struggles that you’re having. And in the meantime, here are a few tips for falling in love with yourself this summer:

Do a total closet purge.

Jean shorts shrink in the winter, we swear. 

In all seriousness, you deserve to only have a closet full of clothes that make you feel AMAZING. Instead of forcing yourself into clothes that no longer serve you, start your summer with a major closet clean out. Donate ANYTHING that doesn’t make you feel beautiful. If that leaves you without the clothes you need for the summer, hit your local thrift store to replace your old clothes with new pieces that make you feel sexy and confident.

Practice Affirmations

It’s so easy to get caught up in what our body isn’t that we forget to celebrate all the things it does for us on a daily basis. Carve out some time every single day to practice positive affirmations, complimenting yourself on all of the things that your body does so well. Even if you have to start small, practice gratitude for your body every day. It’s literally proven to increase your self-esteem and overall well being.

Do a social media cleanse.

We all follow celebrities and influencers who make us feel less than stellar about ourselves and our lives. Not to mention, it’s so easy to get lost in the allure of social media that we forget that they’re curated platforms where people literally only showcase the best, most polished versions of ourselves.

If scrolling socials is making you feel badly about yourself, it’s time for a timeline cleanse. Go through the people that you’re following with the intention of creating a safe space to scroll that makes you feel GOOD. This looks different for different people. You might choose to unfollow all celebrities and influencers, you might choose to only follow people who promote positive messages. Whatever your most empowering, confidence-boosting version of social media looks like, create it for yourself.

Getting Hot and Heavy in the Heat

Practicing self-love and boosting your self-confidence is the first and most important step in having the best sex ever in the summertime. If you’re struggling with your self-esteem, none of the more practical steps are going to matter. But now that you’ve fully fallen in love with your summer body, you’re ready to get hot and heavy.

Just because it’s too hot for skin contact doesn’t mean your sex drive magically disappears. In fact, there’s something kind of sexy about getting down and dirty when it’s 95 degrees out. It can be really fun!

So, if you’re ready to have sex in the summer without spiking your heart rate and getting even sweatier than you already are, here are some tips to make it happen:

Try shower sex.

Let’s be honest, shower sex is never as fun as they make it seem in the movies. Instead of steamy fun, it’s more like trying to maneuver your body in a cramped space without any injuries to yourself or your partner(s). But the summertime is the perfect time to experiment with shower sex (or any kind of sex + water combination!) Just remember that, aside from the risk of slipping and falling, sex in any type of water also has the potential to be uncomfortable and irritating. Because water rinses away any natural lubricants that your body or your partner’s body creates, we recommend using a silicone-based lubricant (it won’t wash away with water) to make your experience more pleasurable.

Just note: if you’re using a silicone-based lubricant, avoid using silicone sex toys, as the lubricant can degrade the material causing the toys to become sticky or damaged over time.

Experiment with temperature play.

When it’s hot outside, there’s no better time to bring something cool into the bedroom! Temperature play is a type of BDSM or sensation play that utilizes different temperatures as a form of erotic stimulation. Though temperature play technically encompasses both hot and cold temperatures, we recommend sticking to the cold items during the sticky summer months. Ice cubes, frozen cups and spoons, and ice packs are all items that you can experiment with. Just make sure that you discuss the inclusion of these items with your partner or partners beforehand, and test them out on your skin to make sure they’re not too cold!

Crank the AC before sex.

If you can afford a few extra dollars on your electric bill next month, plan for sex by cranking the AC beforehand! We recommend making a whole date of it–going out for dinner and setting the AC before you leave, then coming back to a refreshingly cool apartment and your bed waiting for you to dive under the covers. Just make sure it’s not too cold!

Try low or no-contact sex.

When it’s too hot to be touched but you still crave sex, opt for positions that require little to no body contact! Positions like doggy-style and reverse cowgirl don’t require as much body contact as positions like missionary do. So, get creative with ways to have sex without full-on body contact! Or, if you don’t want to touch at all, consider mutual masturbation as your perfect option!

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Sex in the summertime starts with self-confidence and gets better with different ways to cool down when you’re in the mood for sex without all the sweat. Hopefully these tips will help you have fun and enjoy your summer while you heat things up without overheating!
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