Have you ever felt ashamed or embarrassed of your sexual desires, experiences, or history? Chances are, you have, and maybe you’ve been grappling with what’s a “normal” amount of discomfort or shame to feel surrounding the topic of sex. If that’s the case, you’re not alone. It’s not unlikely to have feelings of shame arise […]

You’ve heard us say it before, and you’ll hear us say it again—learning how to effectively communicate with your partner is the key to a happy relationship and a pleasurable sex life. But it goes without saying that communication isn’t always as easy as it seems. Sometimes in a relationship it feels like your partner […]

With the holiday season approaching, you might be thinking about treating yourself or someone you love to a new toy. There is an endless amount of fantastic vibrators, wands, dildos, and accessories available these days, to the point where it can be difficult to choose!  So, with a little help from our friend Carlyle Jansen, […]

Body image and sexual shame are two deeply intertwined issues that have an overwhelming effect on many people’s lives and relationships (with both themselves and their sexual/romantic partners). This connection can create a challenging and seemingly inescapable cycle that impacts self-esteem, intimacy, and overall well being.  If you are suffering from negative body image feeding […]

In August, pint-sized pop star Sabrina Carpenter released her album Short n’ Sweet. In typical Carpenter fashion, the album has no shortage of innuendo and not-so-innuendo. One song in particular keeps getting stuck in our heads—Bed Chem. Not to be confused with “chem sex” (which is an entirely different post in itself, let us know […]

After a sexual encounter, you might expect to feel empowered or elated. But instead, you feel sad, anxious, and even shameful. At times, these feelings might even be strong enough that you avoid sex altogether, maybe even shying away from sex as a topic of conversation because the feelings of shame are so strong.  If […]

In May of 2024, the dating app Bumble made headlines and ruffled feathers for a campaign targeted towards women. The billboards that cropped up in the Los Angeles area urged women to take another chance at sex and dating, with one billboard reading “You know full well a vow of celibacy is not the answer.” […]

Learning about sex, sexuality, desire, and overcoming shame is an ongoing journey that we take over the course of our entire lives. Whether you’re wanting to expand your worldview, embrace your own identity, support a loved one, or understand and overcome your own feelings of sexual shame, having access to reliable resources is crucial.  Over […]

Marked by newfound freedom and independence, going off to college is an exciting transitional period in the lives of young adults. In addition to exploring new academic horizons and meeting new friends, college also introduces young adults to the complexities of relationships, sexuality, and societal pressures. For many, this is both an exhilarating and nerve-wracking […]

Feelings of shame during sexual interactions are more pervasive and common than you may think. If you find yourself turning inward, unable to be fully present during sex, or suffering from lingering feelings of shame and anxiety before, during, and after intimacy, you are absolutely not alone in those feelings. Sexual shame can manifest itself […]

We’ve been creating the GETSOME Podcast for three whole seasons now, with a fourth on the horizon! In that time we’ve spoken with some of the most fascinating people on the internet, held space for difficult but necessary conversations, and joined forces with people who are just as passionate about minimizing sexual shame as we […]