Why We Need to Talk About Soft Penises (Yes, Yours) Unshaming the soft penis is a critical conversation that needs to happen. Understanding unshaming the soft penis can redefine your sexual experiences. You’re having sex. Things are heating up. You’re into it—or at least, you think you are. And then… it happens. Your erection disappears. […]

Have you ever gone completely blank during a moment that really mattered? You’re in front of a group. Or with someone you care about. You were fine one moment — and the next, you’re gone. Not physically, but mentally. Words vanish. You freeze. This is called a freeze response, and it’s a common part of […]

A playful banana image representing circumcision and foreskin health in a sex therapist’s guide.

Ever searched why do I lose my erection and found nothing but ads? This post explores how pharma dominates Google—and why shame-free sex education gets buried.

Why Shame Shapes Your Dating Patterns (And How to Reconnect with Real Desire) If shame in dating keeps pulling you into the same cycles—overgiving, shrinking, settling, or chasing unavailable partners—you’re not broken. What may be happening is that you’re repeating old relationship blueprints shaped by shame in dating. In this post, you’ll learn 5 subtle […]

Why Sex Education in Therapy Training Matters for Client Safety Understanding the necessity of sex education in therapy training is crucial for developing competent therapists. 1. It Challenges Personal Discomfort—Not Just Client Shame Sex education in therapy training isn’t just missing from most programs—it’s controversial when it shows up. A recent Wall Street Journal opinion […]

Looking at yourself from the outside—this image captures the emotional disconnection that often accompanies feeling numb during sex. A moment of reflection, not presence.

Sexual Dynamics That Went Down in Season 3, Episode 5 of White Lotus White Lotus and sexual shame collide in one of the most compelling storylines of the new season—and if you’re in the sex therapy world like I am, you’ll understand why. A client-worthy confession unravels onscreen through the character of Frank, a celibate […]

Many people have one or a few things that really get them going. Maybe it’s a particular body part, a specific material, or a certain type of interaction. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re drawn to something specific during sex, you’re not alone—research shows that approximately 45–60% of adults have fantasized about specific kinks (with […]

Research shows that sexual shame affects a significant portion of adults, impacting everything from our self-image to our closest relationships. Whether these feelings stem from upbringing, culture, or lived experiences, we can all agree that we would rather keep shame out of our most vulnerable and intimate moments. Yet there it is, like the worst […]