Therapists do not need every answer about sex. But when clients bring sexual shame, early ejaculation, performance pressure, or relationship fear into the room, they need enough steadiness and language to stay present.

When sex starts carrying pressure, reassurance, resentment, or fear, couples are not only arguing about frequency. They may be asking whether sex still includes both people.

For International Kissing Day, a grounded GETSOME look at kissing, pressure, early ejaculation, body bracing, pain, inexperience, and why pleasure is not performance.

A post for the partners of guys navigating early ejaculation, and anyone who has ever cared about someone through something they could not fix for them. If you are reading this, there is a good chance someone you care about is struggling with early ejaculation. And you have probably been doing everything you can think […]

Most therapists were never trained to work with male sexual shame at the body level. What the field gets wrong about early ejaculation, and what it costs men.

One in five American adults has explored AI intimacy, using a chatbot for romantic or intimate connection. Most of them weren’t looking for it. It just kind of happened. I’ve been sitting with that statistic for a while. Not because I find it alarming, but because I find it clarifying. Last week, I was at […]

I was on Justin Lehmiller’s Sex and Psychology Podcast this week, episode 502, and we spent 35 minutes on exactly this: why the performance framing keeps people stuck, and what a nervous system lens actually changes. It felt like the right moment to put this in writing. Performance anxiety in sex is treated like a […]

The word “premature” carries a verdict. Here’s why a certified sex therapist uses “early ejaculation” instead — and why the language shift actually helps.

ASTO-Certified Sex Therapist Michelle Fischler explains the link between shame and early ejaculation, and introduces the unshaming nervous system approach from her new book Coming Soon. Available now at comingsoonbook.ca.

Early ejaculation is one of the most common male sexual concerns. Michelle Fischler, MSW, RSW, RP shares a shame first, then technique approach to lasting longer.