Have you ever felt ashamed or embarrassed of your sexual desires, experiences, or history? Chances are, you have, and maybe you’ve been grappling with what’s a “normal” amount of discomfort or shame to feel surrounding the topic of sex. If that’s the case, you’re not alone. It’s not unlikely to have feelings of shame arise […]

Spoiler alert — Season 3, Episode 5 White Lotus Just Got Wild Some of the sexual dynamics this season? Total fever dream. But one storyline in particular caught my attention—especially given my niche in sex therapy. Sam Rockwell makes a surprise appearance as Frank, an old friend of Rick Hatchett (played by Walton Goggins), who […]

Many people have one or a few things that really get them going. Maybe it’s a particular body part, a specific material, or a certain type of interaction. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re drawn to something specific during sex, you’re not alone—research shows that approximately 45–60% of adults have fantasized about specific kinks (with […]

Research shows that sexual shame affects a significant portion of adults, impacting everything from our self-image to our closest relationships. Whether these feelings stem from upbringing, culture, or lived experiences, we can all agree that we would rather keep shame out of our most vulnerable and intimate moments. Yet there it is, like the worst […]

What is virginity? Throughout history, this concept has undergone dramatic transformations. In ancient times, virginity was often viewed as a form of property, tied to women’s marriage value and family honor. During the Middle Ages, it became deeply entwined with religious purity. By the Victorian era, it was a moral imperative, heavily gendered and used […]

We opened our anonymous Sex Therapist Hotline in 2024 and received dozens of thoughtful, vulnerable, and important questions about sex, relationships, and intimacy. Today, we’re sharing the most frequently asked and insightful questions, along with expert answers from Michelle Fischler, ASTO-certified sex therapist and founder of GETSOME! On Desire Discrepancy “What should I do if […]

There is this fascinating belief called “declinism” which is the general belief that society or institutions are trending downwards. Though this is in no small part due to cognitive bias having us believe that the past was perfect and the future is bleak, there is no denying that lack of community is taking its toll […]

Is everyone sick of talking about AI yet? It’s been almost two years since ChatGPT became a publicly accessible AI tool, and since then the industry has blown up. We’ve seen AI startups come and go, constant discourse about whether or not AI is going to steal all of our jobs, and most recently, an […]

If you’ve been feeling anxious about the results of the recent election in the United States, you’re not alone. The near-immediate spike in search terms like “change my vote,” plus a 1,500% increase in Americans researching how to leave the U.S., points towards a population that is scared for their rights—including reproductive freedom—being stripped away.  […]

You’ve heard us say it before, and you’ll hear us say it again—learning how to effectively communicate with your partner is the key to a happy relationship and a pleasurable sex life. But it goes without saying that communication isn’t always as easy as it seems. Sometimes in a relationship it feels like your partner […]

With the holiday season approaching, you might be thinking about treating yourself or someone you love to a new toy. There is an endless amount of fantastic vibrators, wands, dildos, and accessories available these days, to the point where it can be difficult to choose!  So, with a little help from our friend Carlyle Jansen, […]