Most therapists were never trained to work with male sexual shame at the body level. What the field gets wrong about early ejaculation, and what it costs men.

One in five American adults has explored AI intimacy, using a chatbot for romantic or intimate connection. Most of them weren’t looking for it. It just kind of happened. I’ve been sitting with that statistic for a while. Not because I find it alarming, but because I find it clarifying. Last week, I was at […]

The word “premature” carries a verdict. Here’s why a certified sex therapist uses “early ejaculation” instead — and why the language shift actually helps.

ASTO-Certified Sex Therapist Michelle Fischler explains the link between shame and early ejaculation, and introduces the unshaming nervous system approach from her new book Coming Soon. Available now at comingsoonbook.ca.

Premature ejaculation affects millions of men. Sex therapist Michelle Fischler wrote Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer — the book that gives you a map, not just techniques. Pre-order now.

Have you ever gone completely blank during a moment that really mattered? You’re in front of a group. Or with someone you care about. You were fine one moment — and the next, you’re gone. Not physically, but mentally. Words vanish. You freeze. This is called a freeze response, and it’s a common part of […]

A playful banana image representing circumcision and foreskin health in a sex therapist’s guide.

Why We Need to Talk About Soft Penises (Yes, Yours) Unshaming the soft penis is a critical conversation that needs to happen. Understanding unshaming the soft penis can redefine your sexual experiences. You’re having sex. Things are heating up. You’re into it—or at least, you think you are. And then… it happens. Your erection disappears. […]

Why Sex Education in Therapy Training Matters for Client Safety Understanding the necessity of sex education in therapy training is crucial for developing competent therapists. 1. It Challenges Personal Discomfort—Not Just Client Shame Sex education in therapy training isn’t just missing from most programs—it’s controversial when it shows up. A recent Wall Street Journal opinion […]

Looking at yourself from the outside—this image captures the emotional disconnection that often accompanies feeling numb during sex. A moment of reflection, not presence.