Why We Need to Talk About Soft Penises (Yes, Yours) Unshaming the soft penis is a critical conversation that needs to happen. Understanding unshaming the soft penis can redefine your sexual experiences. You’re having sex. Things are heating up. You’re into it—or at least, you think you are. And then… it happens. Your erection disappears. […]

Why Sex Education in Therapy Training Matters for Client Safety Understanding the necessity of sex education in therapy training is crucial for developing competent therapists. 1. It Challenges Personal Discomfort—Not Just Client Shame Sex education in therapy training isn’t just missing from most programs—it’s controversial when it shows up. A recent Wall Street Journal opinion […]

Looking at yourself from the outside—this image captures the emotional disconnection that often accompanies feeling numb during sex. A moment of reflection, not presence.

Sexual Dynamics That Went Down in Season 3, Episode 5 of White Lotus White Lotus and sexual shame collide in one of the most compelling storylines of the new season—and if you’re in the sex therapy world like I am, you’ll understand why. A client-worthy confession unravels onscreen through the character of Frank, a celibate […]

Many people have one or a few things that really get them going. Maybe it’s a particular body part, a specific material, or a certain type of interaction. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re drawn to something specific during sex, you’re not alone—research shows that approximately 45–60% of adults have fantasized about specific kinks (with […]

Research shows that sexual shame affects a significant portion of adults, impacting everything from our self-image to our closest relationships. Whether these feelings stem from upbringing, culture, or lived experiences, we can all agree that we would rather keep shame out of our most vulnerable and intimate moments. Yet there it is, like the worst […]

From loneliness to legal risks, here’s what AI could mean for sexual wellness Is everyone sick of talking about AI yet? How about A.I in sex therapy? It’s been almost two years since ChatGPT became a publicly accessible AI tool, and since then the industry has blown up. We’ve seen AI startups come and go, […]

If you’ve been feeling anxious about the results of the recent election in the United States, you’re not alone. The near-immediate spike in search terms like “change my vote,” plus a 1,500% increase in Americans researching how to leave the U.S., points towards a population that is scared for their rights—including reproductive freedom—being stripped away.  […]

Body image and sexual shame are two deeply intertwined issues that have an overwhelming effect on many people’s lives and relationships (with both themselves and their sexual/romantic partners). This connection can create a challenging and seemingly inescapable cycle that impacts self-esteem, intimacy, and overall well being.  If you are suffering from negative body image feeding […]

After a sexual encounter, you might expect to feel empowered or elated. But instead, you feel sad, anxious, and even shameful. At times, these feelings might even be strong enough that you avoid sex altogether, maybe even shying away from sex as a topic of conversation because the feelings of shame are so strong.  If […]