A playful banana image representing circumcision and foreskin health in a sex therapist’s guide.

Why We Need to Talk About Soft Penises (Yes, Yours) You’re having sex. Things are heating up. Then your erection starts to soften. Maybe your partner has climbed on top. Maybe nothing obvious has changed. “Why do I keep losing my erection?” And perhaps, just as quickly: “What does this say about me?” That second […]

Why Sex Education in Therapy Training Matters for Client Safety Understanding the necessity of sex education in therapy training is crucial for developing competent therapists. 1. It Challenges Personal Discomfort—Not Just Client Shame Sex education in therapy training isn’t just missing from most programs—it’s controversial when it shows up. A recent Wall Street Journal opinion […]

Feeling numb during sex does not automatically mean trauma, lack of attraction or brokenness. The first step is understanding what kind of numbness you mean.

Sexual Dynamics That Went Down in Season 3, Episode 5 of White Lotus White Lotus and sexual shame collide in one of the most compelling storylines of the new season—and if you’re in the sex therapy world like I am, you’ll understand why. A client-worthy confession unravels onscreen through the character of Frank, a celibate […]

Many people have one or a few things that really get them going. Maybe it’s a particular body part, a specific material, or a certain type of interaction. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re drawn to something specific during sex, you’re not alone—research shows that approximately 45–60% of adults have fantasized about specific kinks (with […]

Research shows that sexual shame affects a significant portion of adults, impacting everything from our self-image to our closest relationships. Whether these feelings stem from upbringing, culture, or lived experiences, we can all agree that we would rather keep shame out of our most vulnerable and intimate moments. Yet there it is, like the worst […]

What does virginity mean in today’s world, and why does the definition still matter? Throughout history, this concept has undergone dramatic transformations. In ancient times, virginity was often viewed as a form of property, tied to women’s marriage value and family honour. During the Middle Ages, it became deeply entwined with religious purity. By the […]

From loneliness to legal risks, here’s what AI could mean for sexual wellness Is everyone sick of talking about AI yet? How about A.I in sex therapy? It’s been almost two years since ChatGPT became a publicly accessible AI tool, and since then the industry has blown up. We’ve seen AI startups come and go, […]

Sexual health after the 2024 U.S. election is under threat—and if you’ve been feeling anxious about the results, you’re not alone…The near-immediate spike in search terms like “change my vote,” plus a 1,500% increase in Americans researching how to leave the U.S., points towards a population that is scared for their rights—including reproductive freedom—being stripped […]