One in five American adults has explored AI intimacy, using a chatbot for romantic or intimate connection. Most of them weren’t looking for it. It just kind of happened. I’ve been sitting with that statistic for a while. Not because I find it alarming, but because I find it clarifying. Last week, I was at […]

I was on Justin Lehmiller’s Sex and Psychology Podcast this week, episode 502, and we spent 35 minutes on exactly this: why the performance framing keeps people stuck, and what a nervous system lens actually changes. It felt like the right moment to put this in writing. Performance anxiety in sex is treated like a […]

Have you ever gone completely blank during a moment that really mattered? You’re in front of a group. Or with someone you care about. You were fine one moment — and the next, you’re gone. Not physically, but mentally. Words vanish. You freeze. This is called a freeze response, and it’s a common part of […]

A playful banana image representing circumcision and foreskin health in a sex therapist’s guide.

Looking at yourself from the outside—this image captures the emotional disconnection that often accompanies feeling numb during sex. A moment of reflection, not presence.

Sexual Dynamics That Went Down in Season 3, Episode 5 of White Lotus White Lotus and sexual shame collide in one of the most compelling storylines of the new season—and if you’re in the sex therapy world like I am, you’ll understand why. A client-worthy confession unravels onscreen through the character of Frank, a celibate […]

Sexual health after the 2024 U.S. election is under threat—and if you’ve been feeling anxious about the results, you’re not alone…The near-immediate spike in search terms like “change my vote,” plus a 1,500% increase in Americans researching how to leave the U.S., points towards a population that is scared for their rights—including reproductive freedom—being stripped […]

Learn how to connect more deeply, avoid communication traps, and talk about sex with care, empathy, and confidence. 1. Understand Why Talking About Sex Matters In The First Place. You’ve heard us say it before, and you’ll hear us say it again—learning how to effectively communicate with your partner is the key to a happy […]

In May of 2024, the dating app Bumble made headlines and ruffled feathers for a campaign targeted towards women. The billboards that cropped up in the Los Angeles area urged women to take another chance at sex and dating, with one billboard reading “You know full well a vow of celibacy is not the answer.” […]

Learning about sex, sexuality, desire, and unshaming sex is a lifelong journey. Whether you’re wanting to expand your worldview, embrace your own identity, support a loved one, or finally let go of the shame you were taught to carry—unshaming sex doesn’t happen all at once. It happens through curiosity, reflection, and trusted tools that meet […]