When sex starts carrying pressure, reassurance, resentment, or fear, couples are not only arguing about frequency. They may be asking whether sex still includes both people.

For International Kissing Day, a grounded GETSOME look at kissing, pressure, early ejaculation, body bracing, pain, inexperience, and why pleasure is not performance.

One in five American adults has explored AI intimacy, using a chatbot for romantic or intimate connection. Most of them weren’t looking for it. It just kind of happened. I’ve been sitting with that statistic for a while. Not because I find it alarming, but because I find it clarifying. Last week, I was at […]

I was on Justin Lehmiller’s Sex and Psychology Podcast this week, episode 502, and we spent 35 minutes on exactly this: why the performance framing keeps people stuck, and what a nervous system lens actually changes. It felt like the right moment to put this in writing. Performance anxiety in sex is treated like a […]

Have you ever gone completely blank during a moment that really mattered? You’re in front of a group. Or with someone you care about. You were fine one moment — and the next, you’re gone. Not physically, but mentally. Words vanish. You freeze. This is called a freeze response, and it’s a common part of […]

A playful banana image representing circumcision and foreskin health in a sex therapist’s guide.

Looking at yourself from the outside—this image captures the emotional disconnection that often accompanies feeling numb during sex. A moment of reflection, not presence.

Sexual Dynamics That Went Down in Season 3, Episode 5 of White Lotus White Lotus and sexual shame collide in one of the most compelling storylines of the new season—and if you’re in the sex therapy world like I am, you’ll understand why. A client-worthy confession unravels onscreen through the character of Frank, a celibate […]

Sexual health after the 2024 U.S. election is under threat—and if you’ve been feeling anxious about the results, you’re not alone…The near-immediate spike in search terms like “change my vote,” plus a 1,500% increase in Americans researching how to leave the U.S., points towards a population that is scared for their rights—including reproductive freedom—being stripped […]

Learn how to connect more deeply, avoid communication traps, and talk about sex with care, empathy, and confidence. 1. Understand Why Talking About Sex Matters In The First Place. You’ve heard us say it before, and you’ll hear us say it again—learning how to effectively communicate with your partner is the key to a happy […]