Why We Need to Talk About Soft Penises (Yes, Yours) Unshaming the soft penis is a critical conversation that needs to happen. Understanding unshaming the soft penis can redefine your sexual experiences. You’re having sex. Things are heating up. You’re into it—or at least, you think you are. And then… it happens. Your erection disappears. […]

Why Sex Education in Therapy Training Matters for Client Safety Understanding the necessity of sex education in therapy training is crucial for developing competent therapists. 1. It Challenges Personal Discomfort—Not Just Client Shame Sex education in therapy training isn’t just missing from most programs—it’s controversial when it shows up. A recent Wall Street Journal opinion […]

Looking at yourself from the outside—this image captures the emotional disconnection that often accompanies feeling numb during sex. A moment of reflection, not presence.

Sexual Dynamics That Went Down in Season 3, Episode 5 of White Lotus White Lotus and sexual shame collide in one of the most compelling storylines of the new season—and if you’re in the sex therapy world like I am, you’ll understand why. A client-worthy confession unravels onscreen through the character of Frank, a celibate […]

Many people have one or a few things that really get them going. Maybe it’s a particular body part, a specific material, or a certain type of interaction. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re drawn to something specific during sex, you’re not alone—research shows that approximately 45–60% of adults have fantasized about specific kinks (with […]

Research shows that sexual shame affects a significant portion of adults, impacting everything from our self-image to our closest relationships. Whether these feelings stem from upbringing, culture, or lived experiences, we can all agree that we would rather keep shame out of our most vulnerable and intimate moments. Yet there it is, like the worst […]

What is virginity? Throughout history, this concept has undergone dramatic transformations. In ancient times, virginity was often viewed as a form of property, tied to women’s marriage value and family honor. During the Middle Ages, it became deeply entwined with religious purity. By the Victorian era, it was a moral imperative, heavily gendered and used […]

We opened our anonymous Sex Therapist Hotline in 2024 and received dozens of thoughtful, vulnerable, and important questions about sex, relationships, and intimacy. Today, we’re sharing the most frequently asked and insightful questions, along with expert answers from Michelle Fischler, ASTO-certified sex therapist and founder of GETSOME! On Desire Discrepancy “What should I do if […]

There is this fascinating belief called “declinism” which is the general belief that society or institutions are trending downwards. Though this is in no small part due to cognitive bias having us believe that the past was perfect and the future is bleak, there is no denying that lack of community is taking its toll […]

From loneliness to legal risks, here’s what AI could mean for sexual wellness Is everyone sick of talking about AI yet? How about A.I in sex therapy? It’s been almost two years since ChatGPT became a publicly accessible AI tool, and since then the industry has blown up. We’ve seen AI startups come and go, […]