Sex and sexuality are universal human experiences, yet the intimacy of the topic makes it a conversation that often happens in hushed whispers and incognito Google searches. So, we are bringing the conversation into the open, with education and resources that embrace the diversity of the human experience. Adults from all walks of life are welcome at GETSOME.
Our approach to sexual education combines compassion with humor to help everyone overcome the often daunting task of addressing sexual shame. Because, no matter who you are or who you love, you deserve to GETSOME.
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ToggleWhether you’re wanting to expand your worldview, embrace your own identity, support a loved one, or finally let go of the shame you were taught to carry—unshaming sex doesn’t happen all at once. It happens through curiosity, reflection, and trusted tools that meet you where you are.
Over the course of my career, I’ve collected a rather extensive list of books, workbooks, websites, apps, and podcasts that offer education, insight, and support into all different areas of the sexuality spectrum. Now, you can use this list as a starting point to help you navigate the complexities of sex, sexuality, and shame.
Below, you’ll find some of the most trusted resources for unshaming sex—no matter where you are on your journey.
Decker, J. S. (2015). The invisible orientation: An introduction to asexuality. Skyhorse Publishing.
Easton, D., & Liszt, C. A. (2000). When someone you love is kinky. Greenery.
Taormino, T. (2012). The ultimate guide to kink: BDSM, role play, and the erotic edge. Cleis Press.
Taylor, S. R. (2021). The Body Is Not an Apology, Second Edition: The Power of Radical Self-Love.
Laureano, B. I. (2023). The People’s Book of Human Sexuality: Expanding the Sexology Archive. Routledge.
Benembarek, S. (2023). Halal Sex: The Intimate Lives of Muslim Women in North America. Viking Canada/Penguin Random House Canada
Kleinplatz, P. (2020). Magnificent sex: Lessons from extraordinary lovers. Routledge.
McCarthy, B. W., & McCarthy, E. J. (2020). Rekindling desire. Routledge, Taylor & Francis Group.
Perel, E. (2009). Mating in captivity: Reconciling the erotic and the domestic. HarperCollins.
Brotto, Lori. The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook: A Guide to Cultivating Desire Paperback – Oct. 18 2022
Kaufman, M., Silverberg, C., & Odette, F. (2007). The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For all of us who live with disabilities, chronic pain, and illness.
Tarpey, J., Venables, K., & Gurza, A. (2021). The Bump’n Book of Love, Lust & Disability.
Braun-Harvey, D., & Vigorito, M. A. (2016). Treating out of control sexual behavior: Rethinking sex addiction. Springer Publishing Company, LLC.
Ley, D. J. (2014). The myth of sex addiction. Rowman & Littlefield.
Neves, S. (2021). Compulsive Sexual Behaviours: A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians. Routledge.
Fischler, Michelle (2025) Easing Erection Anxiety Audio Series: A Mindful Approach to Reclaiming Pleasure
McCarthy, B. W., & McCarthy, E. J. (1998). Male sexual awareness: Increasing sexual satisfaction. Carroll & Graf.
McCarthy, B. W., & McCarthy, E. J. (2021). Contemporary male sexuality: Confronting myths and promoting change. Routledge, Taylor & Francis Group.
Metz, M. E., & McCarthy, B. W. (2004). Coping with erectile dysfunction: How to regain confidence and enjoy great sex. New Harbinger.
Metz, M. E., & McCarthy, B. W. (2004). Coping with premature ejaculation: How to overcome PE, please your partner, and have great sex. New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
Zilbergeld, B. (1999). The new male sexuality. Manitoba Education and Advanced Learning, Alternate Formats Library.
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Pink & White Productions and PinkLabelTV
Blue Artichoke
MakeLoveNotPorn
Erika Lust, feminist pornographer
Dipsea Stories
Hysterical Literature
Beautiful Agony
Four Chambers
Archive of Our Own
SlipShine
SmutPeddler: Impeccable Pornoglyphics for Cultivated Ladies (and Men of Exceptional Taste!)
Cocky Boys
Damm, K.A (2003). Without reservation. Indigenous Erotica
Whitehead, J. (2018). Johnny Appleseed.
Friday, N. (1973). My Secret Garden: Women’s Sexual Fantasies. Trident Press.
Bader, M. J. (2003). Arousal: The secret logic of sexual fantasies. St. Martin’s Griffin.
Blue, V. (2014). The ultimate guide to sexual fantasy: How to have incredible sex with role play, sex games, erotic massage, BDSM play and much, much more. Cleis Press.
Lehmiller, J.(2018). Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life
Goldstein, A., Goldstein, I., Pukall, C. (2011). When sex hurts: A Woman’s Guide to Banishing Sexual Pain.
Gunter, J. (2019). The vagina bible: The vulva and the vagina–separating the myth from the medicine. Random House Canada.
Brotto, L. A. (2018). Better sex through mindfulness: Harnessing the power of the present to cultivate desire. Greystone Books Ltd.
Barker, M.-J. (2019). Life isn’t binary. Jessica Kingsley Publishers.
Kobabe, M. (2019). Gender queer: A memoir. [Graphic novel].
McDaniel, R. (2023) Gender Magic: Live Shamelessly, Reclaim Your Joy, & Step into Your Most Authentic Self
Thawer, Rahim. (2025) The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys
Vaid-Menon, A. (2020). Beyond the binary. [Pocket-sized version]. Penguin Workshop
Dodson, B. (1987). Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving
Fischler, Michelle (2025) How To Orgasm On Your Own
Fischler, Michelle (2025) How to Orgasm with a Partner Present
Jansen, C. (2015). Sex Yourself: The Woman’s Guide to Mastering Masturbation and Achieving Powerful Orgasms. Quiver Books.
Kerner, I. (2019). She comes first: The thinking Man’S guide to pleasuring a woman. Souvenir Press.
Mintz, L. (2018). Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters–and how to get it. HarperCollins Publishers Inc.
Nagoski, E. (2015). Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life.
Fern, J. (2020). Polysecure: Attachment, trauma, and consensual non-monogamy. Thorntree Press.
Gahran, A. (2017). Stepping off the relationship escalator: Uncommon love and life. Off the Escalator Enterprises, LLC.
Kauppi, M. (2021). Polyamory a clinical toolkit for therapists. Rowman & Littlefield.
Michaels, M. A., & Johnson, P. (2015). Designer relationships: A guide to happy monogamy, positive polyamory, and optimistic open relationships. Cleis Press.
Taormino, T. (2008). Opening up: A guide to creating and sustaining open relationships. Cleis Press.
Queen, C., Rednour, S., & Lafrenais, A. (2015). The sex & pleasure book: Good vibrations guide to great sex for everyone. Barnaby LTD, LLC.
Fischler, Michelle (2023). Sex After Trauma with Marlee Liss
Haines, S., Newman, F., & Haines, S. (2007). Healing sex: A mind-body approach to healing sexual trauma. Cleis.
Lew, M. (2004). Victims no longer: The classic guide for men recovering from sexual child abuse. Quill.
Maltz, W. (2001). The sexual healing journey. HarperCollins World.
Martin, B., & Dalzen, R. (2021). The art of receiving and giving: The wheel of consent. Luminare Press.
Kaplan, H. S., & Klein, D. F. (1987). Sexual aversion, sexual phobias, and panic disorder. Routledge.
Weiner, L., & Avery-Clark, C. (2017). Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual. Routledge.
Iasenza, S. (2020). Transforming sexual narratives: A relational approach to sex therapy. Routledge.
Nagoski, E. (2021). Come as you are: The surprising new science that will transform your sex life. Simon & Schuster Paperbacks.
Fischler, Michelle (2023) The Shame Detox: A Sexuality Masterclass
Brotto, L. (2022). The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook: A Guide to Cultivating Desire. Greystone Books.
Cash, T. F. (2008). The Body Image Workbook
An Eight-Step Program for Learning to Like Your Looks, Second Edition. Tantor.
Fischler, Michelle (2023). The Shame Detox Workbook
Labriola, K. (2013). The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships. Greenery Press
Nagoski, E. (2019). The Come as You Are Workbook: A Practical Guide to the Science of Sex [Illustrated]. Simon & Schuster Paperbacks.
Fischler, Michelle (2025). How Do You Experience Desire
GETSOME Podcast with Michelle Fischler
Sex and Psychology with Justin Lehmiller
Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel
The journey to unshaming sex is deeply personal and unique to each individual. The 86+ resources highlighted in this blog post can be used to help you cultivate a healthier, more informed, and compassionate relationship with your sexuality!
Unshaming sex is a continuous process of learning and unlearning. Embrace this journey with an open mind, and remember that you are never alone.