Looking at yourself from the outside—this image captures the emotional disconnection that often accompanies feeling numb during sex. A moment of reflection, not presence.

Sexual Dynamics That Went Down in Season 3, Episode 5 of White Lotus White Lotus and sexual shame collide in one of the most compelling storylines of the new season—and if you’re in the sex therapy world like I am, you’ll understand why. A client-worthy confession unravels onscreen through the character of Frank, a celibate […]

Research shows that sexual shame affects a significant portion of adults, impacting everything from our self-image to our closest relationships. Whether these feelings stem from upbringing, culture, or lived experiences, we can all agree that we would rather keep shame out of our most vulnerable and intimate moments. Yet there it is, like the worst […]

We opened our anonymous Sex Therapist Hotline in 2024 and received dozens of thoughtful, vulnerable, and important questions about sex, relationships, and intimacy. Today, we’re sharing the most frequently asked and insightful questions, along with expert answers from Michelle Fischler, ASTO-certified sex therapist and founder of GETSOME! On Desire Discrepancy “What should I do if […]

From loneliness to legal risks, here’s what AI could mean for sexual wellness Is everyone sick of talking about AI yet? How about A.I in sex therapy? It’s been almost two years since ChatGPT became a publicly accessible AI tool, and since then the industry has blown up. We’ve seen AI startups come and go, […]

Sexual health after the 2024 U.S. election is under threat—and if you’ve been feeling anxious about the results, you’re not alone…The near-immediate spike in search terms like “change my vote,” plus a 1,500% increase in Americans researching how to leave the U.S., points towards a population that is scared for their rights—including reproductive freedom—being stripped […]

Body image and sexual shame are two deeply intertwined issues that have an overwhelming effect on many people’s lives and relationships (with both themselves and their sexual/romantic partners). This connection can create a challenging and seemingly inescapable cycle that impacts self-esteem, intimacy, and overall well being.  If you are suffering from negative body image feeding […]

After a sexual encounter, you might expect to feel empowered or elated. But instead, you feel sad, anxious, and even shameful. At times, these feelings might even be strong enough that you avoid sex altogether, maybe even shying away from sex as a topic of conversation because the feelings of shame are so strong.  If […]

In May of 2024, the dating app Bumble made headlines and ruffled feathers for a campaign targeted towards women. The billboards that cropped up in the Los Angeles area urged women to take another chance at sex and dating, with one billboard reading “You know full well a vow of celibacy is not the answer.” […]

Feelings of shame during sexual interactions are more pervasive and common than you may think. If you find yourself turning inward, unable to be fully present during sex, or suffering from lingering feelings of shame and anxiety before, during, and after intimacy, you are absolutely not alone in those feelings. Sexual shame can manifest itself […]