Looking at yourself from the outside—this image captures the emotional disconnection that often accompanies feeling numb during sex. A moment of reflection, not presence.

Sexual Dynamics That Went Down in Season 3, Episode 5 of White Lotus White Lotus and sexual shame collide in one of the most compelling storylines of the new season—and if you’re in the sex therapy world like I am, you’ll understand why. A client-worthy confession unravels onscreen through the character of Frank, a celibate […]

Research shows that sexual shame affects a significant portion of adults, impacting everything from our self-image to our closest relationships. Whether these feelings stem from upbringing, culture, or lived experiences, we can all agree that we would rather keep shame out of our most vulnerable and intimate moments. Yet there it is, like the worst […]

What does virginity mean in today’s world, and why does the definition still matter? Throughout history, this concept has undergone dramatic transformations. In ancient times, virginity was often viewed as a form of property, tied to women’s marriage value and family honour. During the Middle Ages, it became deeply entwined with religious purity. By the […]

Body image and sexual shame are two deeply intertwined issues that have an overwhelming effect on many people’s lives and relationships (with both themselves and their sexual/romantic partners). This connection can create a challenging and seemingly inescapable cycle that impacts self-esteem, intimacy, and overall well being.  If you are suffering from negative body image feeding […]

After a sexual encounter, you might expect to feel empowered or elated. But instead, you feel sad, anxious, and even shameful. At times, these feelings might even be strong enough that you avoid sex altogether, maybe even shying away from sex as a topic of conversation because the feelings of shame are so strong.  If […]

Marked by newfound freedom and independence, going off to college is an exciting transitional period in the lives of young adults. In addition to exploring new academic horizons and meeting new friends, college also introduces young adults to the complexities of relationships, sexuality, and societal pressures. For many, this is both an exhilarating and nerve-wracking […]

Feelings of shame during sexual interactions are more pervasive and common than you may think. If you find yourself turning inward, unable to be fully present during sex, or suffering from lingering feelings of shame and anxiety before, during, and after intimacy, you are absolutely not alone in those feelings. Sexual shame can manifest itself […]

This summer is already proving to be a scorcher for just about everyone. Though it varies for everyone, the consensus over here at GETSOME is that when it’s too hot to step outside without looking like you jumped in a swimming pool, your desire to be touched by someone else goes down… significantly. But the […]

It goes without saying that motherhood is a life-altering experience. Not only does your body go through significant hormonal and physical shifts, but you are also now responsible for a living human being that is entirely dependent on you for everything that they need to survive and thrive. Even mothers who have children through adoption […]