Have you ever gone completely blank during a moment that really mattered? You’re in front of a group. Or with someone you care about. You were fine one moment — and the next, you’re gone. Not physically, but mentally. Words vanish. You freeze. This is called a freeze response, and it’s a common part of […]

A playful banana image representing circumcision and foreskin health in a sex therapist’s guide.

Ever searched why do I lose my erection and found nothing but ads? This post explores how pharma dominates Google—and why shame-free sex education gets buried.

Looking at yourself from the outside—this image captures the emotional disconnection that often accompanies feeling numb during sex. A moment of reflection, not presence.

Sexual Dynamics That Went Down in Season 3, Episode 5 of White Lotus White Lotus and sexual shame collide in one of the most compelling storylines of the new season—and if you’re in the sex therapy world like I am, you’ll understand why. A client-worthy confession unravels onscreen through the character of Frank, a celibate […]

Sexual health after the 2024 U.S. election is under threat—and if you’ve been feeling anxious about the results, you’re not alone…The near-immediate spike in search terms like “change my vote,” plus a 1,500% increase in Americans researching how to leave the U.S., points towards a population that is scared for their rights—including reproductive freedom—being stripped […]

In August, pint-sized pop star Sabrina Carpenter released her album Short n’ Sweet. In typical Carpenter fashion, the album has no shortage of innuendo and not-so-innuendo. One song in particular keeps getting stuck in our heads—Bed Chem. Not to be confused with “chem sex” (which is an entirely different post in itself, let us know […]

In May of 2024, the dating app Bumble made headlines and ruffled feathers for a campaign targeted towards women. The billboards that cropped up in the Los Angeles area urged women to take another chance at sex and dating, with one billboard reading “You know full well a vow of celibacy is not the answer.” […]

Feelings of shame during sexual interactions are more pervasive and common than you may think. If you find yourself turning inward, unable to be fully present during sex, or suffering from lingering feelings of shame and anxiety before, during, and after intimacy, you are absolutely not alone in those feelings. Sexual shame can manifest itself […]

We’ve been creating the GETSOME Podcast for three whole seasons now, with a fourth on the horizon! In that time we’ve spoken with some of the most fascinating people on the internet, held space for difficult but necessary conversations, and joined forces with people who are just as passionate about minimizing sexual shame as we […]