Have you ever gone completely blank during a moment that really mattered? You’re in front of a group. Or with someone you care about. You were fine one moment — and the next, you’re gone. Not physically, but mentally. Words vanish. You freeze. This is called a freeze response, and it’s a common part of […]

A playful banana image representing circumcision and foreskin health in a sex therapist’s guide.

Ever searched why do I lose my erection and found nothing but ads? This post explores how pharma dominates Google—and why shame-free sex education gets buried.

Looking at yourself from the outside—this image captures the emotional disconnection that often accompanies feeling numb during sex. A moment of reflection, not presence.

Sexual Dynamics That Went Down in Season 3, Episode 5 of White Lotus White Lotus and sexual shame collide in one of the most compelling storylines of the new season—and if you’re in the sex therapy world like I am, you’ll understand why. A client-worthy confession unravels onscreen through the character of Frank, a celibate […]

Research shows that sexual shame affects a significant portion of adults, impacting everything from our self-image to our closest relationships. Whether these feelings stem from upbringing, culture, or lived experiences, we can all agree that we would rather keep shame out of our most vulnerable and intimate moments. Yet there it is, like the worst […]

What does virginity mean in today’s world, and why does the definition still matter? Throughout history, this concept has undergone dramatic transformations. In ancient times, virginity was often viewed as a form of property, tied to women’s marriage value and family honour. During the Middle Ages, it became deeply entwined with religious purity. By the […]

From loneliness to legal risks, here’s what AI could mean for sexual wellness Is everyone sick of talking about AI yet? How about A.I in sex therapy? It’s been almost two years since ChatGPT became a publicly accessible AI tool, and since then the industry has blown up. We’ve seen AI startups come and go, […]

After a sexual encounter, you might expect to feel empowered or elated. But instead, you feel sad, anxious, and even shameful. At times, these feelings might even be strong enough that you avoid sex altogether, maybe even shying away from sex as a topic of conversation because the feelings of shame are so strong.  If […]

In May of 2024, the dating app Bumble made headlines and ruffled feathers for a campaign targeted towards women. The billboards that cropped up in the Los Angeles area urged women to take another chance at sex and dating, with one billboard reading “You know full well a vow of celibacy is not the answer.” […]